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Tuesday, April 14th, 2009

It is important as a man to be engaged and comfortable in our society but to also think for yourself. An important challenge is to fi nd a balance between your solidarity with other men (and women) and your individual autonomy and independence. When we fail to think realistically and be grounded in accurate information, we set ourselves up for cognitive errors. Cognitive errors inevitably set us up to feel inadequate, a failure, and inept.

Such feelings cause us to behave poorly. Th ink realistically. Th ink courageously. Th ink for yourself. An Emotional Skill: Understand the Value of Your Feelings Because your emotions are indispensable for achieving sexual health, it is crucial that you be aware of and be comfortable with your emotions. Everyone who has a body has feelings, but we diff er in our level of awareness and comfort. Some men are very aware of their body’s sensations and feelings and have elaborate words to express them. Others are aware of their feelings but have few words to describe them or have learned not to express emotions out of shame, fear, or sensitivity. Still other men ignore their feelings, believing emotions interfere with their masculinity.